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There is a family of two brothers and a mother. And the one brother doesn't work and stays at home, does his thing. He doesn't want to work or he's not able to work. That doesn't matter. So he doesn't work. He has no income. The other brother, he works. He has income, not a high income, just average salary income. Enough to eat and pay rent and bills and help his mother. The mother lives with them. And the mother has some money, but not a lot of money. She has enough food to make food for both of them at home, not outside, but at home and paying the rent and bills and things like that. And the mother and brother that do have some money, they go out and buy food and eat outside. Sometimes you want to treat yourself or you see something nice outside and you want to eat it. And sometimes they bring this food back home to eat to chill at home and sitting there and enjoy the food. So the problem is the brother that doesn't have any money that doesn't work he feels he is left out outside of this food circle if you want to call it that because they don't offer him any of it. So they do they go out either eat alone outside or come in eat the food in front of him while he's sitting there maybe hungry or just just watching them and he's not allowed to touch that food. They question is if this okay who is right here and there was a fight going on between them. We got off from them. They got off from them. They said you have to go to to work. Go work. Have your own money. buy your own food. Um, and he says, "But I live here. I'm your family. I should get some, too. Can't just eat in front of me." That's that's not that's not nice. So, who is in right? Who is in wrong? Honestly, I'm split about it. It's 50/50. I think both of them are correct. So the the one brother that eats outside or brings it home, of course he has the right to do so. It's his money. He works hard for it. He want to eat. He shouldn't be uncomfortable eating his own food, using his own money. Just because his other brother doesn't want to work or is unable to work, it shouldn't make him feel uncomfortable to use his money to eat. On the other hand, the broad uh it's also not nice to eat food in front of somebody who is maybe hungry or sitting there with nothing. At least you should offer something as from a morality point of view. I mean there is technical correct and then there is moral morally correct. I think technically it's okay. you are, it's your money. You go out, you eat, you come home and eat it. You don't need to offer anything to anybody technically. But on the other hand, you should and you must in my opinion offer your food. Your brother is sitting there with no food. And even though I I think we should be offered food, I still strangely think it's also okay to not offer him. It's at least eat outside. Don't bring it home so he can smell the food and he's sitting hungry there. Of course, there might there might be some food in the fridge, maybe an egg or something. He can't I mean, he's not sitting hungry without food. There is some food, but it's different when they bring in some nice maybe burger or KFC or whatever food there is. It smells nice. It's warm and you're eating it and should offer something on other the brother that doesn't work, he shouldn't make the others feel uncomfortable either because he's not on a disability. I mean, he's able to work. He just doesn't want to work for reasons that it's his reasons. We we don't care. We can't care about the reasons. don't need to go into that. He chooses not to work or something like that. So he is also a little older than the other brother. So in this case he should know that okay my little brother works and he has some money. I shouldn't make him uncomfortable to take food from him. He works for his money. He doesn't have a lot of money. He has just a little extra to buy himself a treat from time to time. So he shouldn't burden him with guilty feelings of hey look I'm sitting hungry you didn't give me. So in a way he is also in the wrong. He shouldn't make them uncomfortable. He should just pretend it's okay or just get out of the house if it's it's too hard for him to smell the food while they're eating. Uh or just pretend everything is normal. Go drink water and sit in your corner for example. um don't look at the food or make them uncomfortable. Try to take the food from them. That's not okay either. So technically that's not okay. Morally that's not okay. But on the other hand again what they both do and expect is technically okay and also not okay. It's a very tricky situation especially in a family situation where they all live together. So I'm still split on this. I can't say either way like yes or no. I mean if somebody ask who is in the right who is in the right wrong I don't know. I can't say they're both right and they're both wrong actually. But personally I would do it like this because I have personally seen actually families where the father for example he goes eat sausage outside at the fuel station for example in not in full secrecy but kind of secret he doesn't tell anybody that he ate the sausage he just says I'm going to fuel station to refuel but there he eats the sausage he doesn't bring anything for the wife. He doesn't offer or ask the wife, "Do you would you like to have a sausage sue or his kids?" Because he doesn't want to pay for it. There is like a 50/50 split there. So, he's like, "It's my money. I'm going to have my sausage." And that's even though it's technically correct, it is morally ugly. Perhaps not morally wrong, but at least morally ugly to do. So you should always offer something to your wife. The kids should always feel that it's it's not dad's sausage, it's it's our sausage. Um and I have even seen people bring it home and put it in the fridge, a can of sauce or whatever it is in the fridge door. That's like that's dad's sauce. Nobody's allowed to touch it. These things are not okay in the family. There's no my cheese, my sauce. There's everyone's cheese, everyone's sauce. This is what kids should learn so they can share and be kind to each other because it's very cold family where you can't touch that sauce. It's my sauce. But dad goes eat alone. is kind of secret. That's just uh I think morally bankrupt, morally wrong, morally ugly. I don't like it personally. Technically, it's no problem. Technically, it's correct. The kid have pocket money, for example, there's other food, but still, I think it's a morally ugly thing to do in that way that it's mine, it's yours. And back to the family issue, even though technically is okay, morally it's ugly. Maybe not wrong, but it's ugly. It's not something beautiful. And within the family, there should be beauty. There should be kindness, sharing, sharing is very important within the family. And so my thought is if the brother that has money eats twice outside personally I would eat one time outside but bring my other brother with me so we eat together. I still spend the same amount of money but I eat one time less outside. Instead I eat at home something and I share the the joy the moment with my brother. And these these things are important. Even though you feel like no but it's my money. Yeah, it's your money. But you know money is temporary. Money is gone in a second. You you eat that food and a few hours later you poop it out, right? The food is gone. The joy is just a few moments, a few minutes. But the joy of sharing it with your own brother or other family members that lasts a a lifetime. You can what if in that moment you you talk about something and it becomes a memory a nice memory 20 years later you you look back and thinking oh that night was very nice or that day was a nice day we shared the sausage we split the sausage together for example I think that is much more valuable than gobbling up your sausage alone in a fuel station in my opinion Yeah. So still though if somebody says judge this situation I would say both of them are correct technically but the situation is morally ugly and I don't approve of it. I think within the family, within friends, even within co-workers, situations should be technically correct. Yes. But also we should look at them as how it looks from a moral standpoint and morally situations should be more pretty, more beautiful. a moral like uh even within the colleagues you maybe buy something that's less how to say less common to offer your colleague hey would you like some of course it depends if it's your lunch you don't it's kind of weird to just offer hey you want have my lunch but for example let's say you buy cookies 10 cookies you eat one of them it's okay to offer your colleague next to you in the table sitting next next year. Hey, have some cookie. Have half have a cookie. You won't lose anything from it. Sure, you might lose a dollar. But now you got to have closer contact with your colleague or your family member and that's more valuable because that is not worth anything to keep it. I mean, but to share it, to give it away, that is that will give you so much more value than just one extra cookie in your stomach. And I think we should kind of think of this situation within the family. If even though we feel no, I'm correct, I'm right, I didn't do anything wrong, which in this case, yes, he didn't do anything wrong. He works hard. He bought a sausage. But is this morally good-looking or is this morally ugly? But on the other hand, the same applies to the brother that is not working. He should also make the situation morally good-looking instead of morally ugly. Even though it's a little to his disadvantage here that he's like he's the one doesn't have money. Still though, don't let your brother or your mother feel bad because they are enjoying a sausage. Don't don't stare at them. Don't don't joke with the fool. Oh, I'm going to take your food or something. That's not nice either. Okay, that's not nice. Even though morally is ugly what they do, you don't have to do it more ugly. Too ugly doesn't make beautiful. Too ugly just makes more ugly. So, you should restrict yourself from this as well. Even though maybe you smell the food, you feel offended or something, but don't feel offended because technically they didn't do anything. Morally, they did something not very nice, but still not very wrong. Technical morality, so to speak. But personally, I'm not that kind of person. I I can't swallow a bite of anything unless if my family member sitting there hungry or looking at me. Even if the family member is eating a massive chunk of cake or whatever it is, it's my thing to offer. Hey, you want a bite of this too? How about the taste? Here, have some. I even sometimes force it. Here, take it. Try it just a bit because that's how it should be. So this the family is about sharing. The same goes with the guests. I have done guests as places where they go eat and they don't offer the guest anything. They will say you sit here. I will come back. I'm going to eat and I will come back. Now what the hell kind of hospitality is that? Technically it's correct. I did. I was not invited for food there. But hey, I am there. I'm your friend as a guest. This is this is very ugly situation. More ugly. Ugly. Ugly. Ugly. Very ugly. I'm very uncomfortable. I was very uncomfortable. Not offended, but I I thought it's not a nice situation. Not that I needed the food. No, I actually had my own money. I was not even hungry. But I I think the gesture of the situation it's just ugly. It's very cold. It's unfriendly. And you don't feel welcome. And uh both about the family members and even guests, you should always be welcoming. Guests are important. Even even in the Bible, there are angels coming. And uh I think it was a lot that he invites them in and says please have a food and such things. Now you might not believe in Bible or religious things but still hospitality is important and hospitality doesn't just apply to guests or unknown people but your family member. make things goodlooking morally within the family and everybody's more happy. That one bite of food will not make you nothing better like not make you more happy or maybe you are enjoying it in the moment but the happiness you would have with the moment of the memory that you shared something with your own brother or mother years and years later. Maybe one of you does uh for example passes away and then what do you have? You will think ah that day I ate my sausage alone. Now he's gone. Or instead you could have remembered that day me and my brother shares half a sausage together. It was nice. That was a nice day. So make the situations a little bit morally goodlook or morally beautiful. Of course it's tricky. It's hard. But try try because memories are much more valuable than the bite of sausage. Thank you and goodbye.