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People don't change. I don't believe that. I think deep inside, deep within people, they don't change. When somebody say I have changed, I have changed. No, they might have developed. They have they might have learned new things, matured, but they have not changed. For example, somebody who wasn't right for you in a relationship, they will not change to be, oh, now now I have changed. I'm all right for you now. Come, please be let's let's be together. I don't think so. I have seen it way too often. You give people chance after chance after chance after chance, they will keep disappointed you. Why? Because they don't change. And this episode might be a very short episode because it's very simple. People don't change. That's it. And you shouldn't try to change people. They won't change. If somebody's a bad seed that somebody is a bad seed and if somebody is a good seed that somebody is a good seed that's really my beliefs uh about this issue so I I don't really think people change. So when you s find somebody that's really a good person that's a really good person. Somebody is a bad person. Well, that somebody probably is a bad person. I mean, a bad person can become better. Okay, they can control the bad, control their negative sides. But deep within, you don't change. I don't believe you can change. Unless some kind of miracle happens from God that he changes you, you cannot change ever. And this this thing actually has not to do just with the relationship but as with you in in life because you're living your life and you see people and they have all these expectations from you. Everybody wants something like they all want to pound the flesh as it is said. I don't know actually where it's come from this saying but it's kind of funny saying. So I use I usually say it's when uh fruit or something is expensive in the shop. So I'm like how they want their pound the flesh. So yeah. So everybody uh has expectations on you. Oh, you got to do this, you got to do that. But really you can't change. So don't change for people. Never try to change for for people. What you you should do and what you must do is find yourself. You got to find yourself. It doesn't mean you have to change to fit anywhere, to fit in a relationship, to fit within a community, neighborhood, friends, family, relatives. No, don't do that. Don't force yourself to change because you cannot change. Nobody changes. You're born who you are. That's that's what you are. That's who you will be forever. And that's that's how it is. Don't try to change. You can become better. You can become more mature, develop, learn more, be more patient, things like that. But for example, if you become more patient because you think, okay, I've learned more. Better not jump at people. For example, if they say something, I hold you hold your peace. Don't don't don't don't talk back. For example, that's not you changing. That's you maturing. You still would maybe like to tell them something. Maybe you say something in your head, but you didn't actually change. Okay? So, don't try to change for others either because that will ruin you. It will destroy your life because you will lose yourself in the process. In the process of trying to change into something that you are not or you will never be. Even sometime you would like to become that person that they expect from you that oh you have to change to become this person and you really like that person that they offer to you or like that they suggest that hey you should be this way or that way. That's fine and dandy. But the problem here is you cannot change. So don't change. Be you. Find you. And there are a lot of people who say find who you are. Find find who you will be. But no, here's the deal. I usually say find who you were. Not who you are, but who you were. Because you were born into someone. And that's the someone you have to find again. You have lost him or her. You have to find who you were, not who you are. Because when when they say find who you are, it means change. Chang into someone that is supposed to be you or the one that you want to be. But that's that's not real. That's fake. that's that's getting you lost into this this weird path of nowhere land. So you got to find who you were, not who you are, who you were, you were born. And if you think and think and think and think, go back, back, back, back back. A month, six months, a year, two years, 5 years, 10 years. Go back. Keep going back. And you will slowly start to notice, wait, I have lost myself. Every year that you go back into your memory, you will notice you were somebody else before that. And you have kind of lost yourself during every year, every week that passes, you you lose yourself into this this war, this real. And I think that's bad. That's sad. We shouldn't lose ourselves. Go back all the way to your childhood as far back as you can remember. Even if the memories are painful, forget the memories. Forget the bad neighbors, bad friends, bad parents, bad family, things like that. Forget that. Concentrate on you. Find who you were. Who were you when you were a little kid? That's the person you want to refind. And add your maturity and your new knowledge of the world. Everything that you have learned you add that onto that person. So first and foremost you have to find yourself the person who you were and who you were is actually the person that is your true self and that is who you are. But you cannot find who you are. You cannot become who you want to be. You have to find who you were because you are already that person. So don't try to become something. Don't try to find someone in the future. You you got to find yourself in the past because that someone already exist. He or she is within you. You have to go back and find her, find him. Once you find that person then only in that moment you have finally find you and once you find you you will become completely peacefully within you with your mind and you won't feel pressure from outside to become somebody. You won't feel this pressure to find yourself that is in the future. You have already find you and you have realized you have always been this person. You just forgot it. You just lost him or lost her. Now you finally found it again. And when you found it, now that you have it, be that person. Don't be scared of it. But use your knowledge, use your maturity, use everything you have learned so far during all these years. use them. I'm not saying lose that knowledge. You need that knowledge to develop you. But you cannot develop anything with knowledge or maturity or experience unless you have it in you in your hand. And you got to have yourself first in your hand in you and then try to apply the stuff of the world onto it to to develop your soul. And you got to go back. You cannot find him or her in here today or tomorrow or in the future. You got to go into your past. Even if it's painful, go back to your childhood. That little kid, that's where you were. That's who you were. Find him. Find her. Bring him or her back here. Bring it into the present and become once again who you were. And this will set you free. It will give you so much freedom, so much peace of mind and so much security of heart, of soul, of body, of life. It will add so much to you and you will walk strongly. You will no longer be scared, be worried, be afraid about things people tell you, bullies, all kinds of things. Also, it will help you define your life easier as once you are finally you, once you have become you, when you have refined yourself and now you can live. You can finally live. Now it's the time to actually live because before that you were fumbling in the dark. You were searching for you. Everybody forgets themselves during years of life as we get older. And that's nobody tells you, "Hey, wait a minute. Stop here. Don't lose yourself. Don't try to find yourself in the future. Go back. bring yourself with you into present into the future you are and this can happen even at an older age. So you got to keep remembering who you were and keep bringing this person with you. Don't lose yourself in life situations, in life events, in people's opinions and words. And this was the episode. Remember who you were. Not who you are, but who you were. Thank you and goodbye.