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The guy is nice and all, but he hides things and lies to her face. Like literally lies to her face. as in he looks at some girls. They're eating at the restaurant and they they have a kid. It's not his kid. It's her kid from a past marriage. In front of a kid, the kid is not that old. The guy is checking out girls, whatever. Maybe w women, girls, and she sees him. She sees his eyes and he's doing it like a million times. not just a glance or something. And she is telling him, "Why are you looking at the girls?" And he says, "I'm not looking. Come on. She sees you." That kind of lie is just kind of like gaslighting thing. It's very nasty. I don't like it at all. This this type of lying is extremely disgusting to me. I I cannot handle it. I cannot tolerate it. I don't think anyone in a relationship should tolerate such a situation. I don't want to judge him too harsh. I mean, he panicked. He's like, "Oh my god, I I check I was checking gears and my girlfriend or my wife saw it and I shouldn't have and now I'm going to hide it." But she saw you even if she didn't see you. You shouldn't hide that stuff. Be a man. Be a woman. just come out clean and come say, "Yeah, I was looking. I thought they look good." That's that's much better than lying to someone's face right in the face. And it's like extremely uncomfortable to me and probably to her and anybody in this situation because it makes you insecure. Not that the your other significant other is looking at someone. No, in a way that so this guy or this woman any word he or she says is it really truth? Did he really tell truth? Maybe he didn't. I mean if I am looking at him or her and he's lying to me or she's lying to me. What the hell? How do I know the next word is truth? I don't know. How can you really ever know? I mean, of course, you never really know who tells truths and lies, but when somebody is clearly hiding something or lying to your face, literally when you see this, that's that's an extreme extremely disturbing situation. And another example was this guy had a had an eye drop or something for eyes. His eyes are dry. Okay, so not a big day. Hey, my eyes are a bit dry. I use these drops or something. She she was cleaning and saw these drops. She found them and then checking what is this weird thing. And the AI said, "It's for eyes or something. I don't know. Some kind of nothing weird. Nothing. No drugs or anything. Just some eye thing." So she put it back and then she asks him later on, "Are you are you using eye drops?" And he says, "No, I'm not using eye drops." She says, "Are you sure? Are you sure you're not using eye drops?" "Yeah, I'm sure I I don't use eye drops." "Okay," she says. And then the guy goes upstairs to the room and hides the eye drops after this incident, after the talk. She goes up there and checks and the eye drops are gone. And she confronts him, says, "Hey, I did see the eye drops. I just wanted you to tell truth. I asked you and I wanted to see what you will respond and your lang and now you you want to hide it." That's a very strange behavior in my opinion. And then he comes like, "All right, I I no I use it. Oh, no. I don't use. So, he's basically lying right to her face again. And this type of person or this specific person, he keeps doing it. It doesn't make any sense. And I kind of sort of a little bit knew him before they were together. and he didn't seem bad person or something like a cheater type or drug or anything just I don't know normal guy but this behavior makes me paranoid I mean normally I I defend him I'm like not defend but I'm trying to calm the situation down and saying like okay so he's a guy he looked at the woman that that's normal almost normal I mean it's not okay it's not good But like guys do that. It's like a natural thing. You see a big boob, you take a glance. It doesn't mean you're horny or you want it or something. Just curious. Just checking it out. Some people just look like to look. I I know myself. I I look, but not I mean not at people's body parts generally. I I just like to look. I'm a bad person. I'm judgmental. So I look to judge. I look to find uh judging crap or gossiping to tell and uh okay it's not it's not a good thing but I do it but I look at women men doesn't matter so if somebody catches me I say yeah I was looking so what I'm looking I don't need to lie but what does it benefit me if I lie and his reason is oh I thought you would be upset so I didn't want to upset you. What? You just destroyed the trust in a relationship over some some nothing really just oh I don't want to upset you and one time two time okay I'm trying to be understandable and con but the guy keeps doing it and now I'm paranoid about I'm like what why wait a minute this this keeps happening something isn't right here it's just how can I how can I trust this guy now he's he's always doing things and hiding it. Even though we we she literally sees it physically, she can take a photo of the eye drops and then he's like, "No, I don't use it. What are there? It's right on the table." for some it happened to some other medicine too that he was using and I don't approve of this kind of behavior and I am actually honestly don't know how to handle this as in how to give advice to this person because I I don't know either is he really just stupid or playing stupid or he just I don't know what this is or he is actually a very bad liar person or he's a liar. You see, you can't know that if somebody does this kind of lying, it's it really mess up a lot of things in a relationship. I mean, I don't even I barely know the guy. I mean, I don't have contact with him, but I don't know the guy, okay? And still I'm paranoid. I imagine living with this person. Every day he wakes up, he says, "Hello, you don't know." Hello means what? Maybe it's a lie. He says it's raining. Yeah. How do you know? We can't be sure because he can lie. And these incidents keep repeating and she is kind of like losing trust in him and doubting the relationship. And it is I do understand her. I wouldn't push her either way to stay or jump out of the relationship because it's not my business. I'm no expert relationship advisors. But I don't like it. I wouldn't want to live with such a person. It's disgusting. It's very disgusting behavior. Especially if you live with someone. You have to be honest together. Tell it that it is. Take the fight. Rather take the fight. Take the upsetness than destroy trust in a relationship. Trust is something that is earned and it takes a long time to build it. It takes time and you know you can use it wisely or you can lose it in a second. Trust can be gone in a second. Every hard work you have done to build trust in a friendship in a relationship in any kind of relationship that co-workers you you work hard you do this you do honest work and then don't add lies to it because one little lie I don't think personally there are things that are called white lies I don't believe in white lies a lie is a lie a lie is is a lie. You are either telling truth or lying. There is no middle ground. There is no but you are upset but this or but this. No, no reason justifies a lie. Nothing in these kind of situation and relationship. You lie and it's a lie. The end. There is no buts or ifs. Okay? So don't do it. Stop lying. Just stop it. And if somebody keeps getting upset over things you do, maybe you're not meant to be together. Why force it? Force the relationship to last with lies. I mean, the other person isn't happy. You aren't happy. What What the hell kind of thing is this? Just go find somebody else. There billions of people out there. Go find somebody that doesn't get upset when you use eye drops or when you say this or do that. That's your somebody. Find that somebody that can accept you for who you are. And this is another reason you shouldn't lie. Because when you lie, you hide your true self. And this over lies. When you build relationships, they won't last because how long are you going to lie? All life with this person, it's tiring. It's you forget. Oh, did I say this or did I say that? Just tell truth. Don't hide stuff. Even if you watch video material that are that is adult for example, no need to hide it. Be frank about it. If the person doesn't like it, then change the person you are with. You don't need to change you or become a liar every little thing. Oh, a little here, a little there. It's just bad. both for both of you. Wasting time, wasting someone else's life and your own life. That's that is just waste waste of so much energy, time planning and you got only one life. You don't have several. You don't have nine lives, 10 lives. Just just don't stop. Stop with the lies. I actually get sick of this thing when I hear it. I'm I'm like disgusted by it and I'm trying to calm their relationship down, but I really think this guy has to man up and stop lying. I just I can't stand these little lies. I can't stand it. The same goes with the women. Stop lying. You You do something, you text somebody, you talk to somebody. Just tell it as it is. take the fight. Okay? Whoever doesn't accept you is not supposed to be with you. That's okay. It's fine. Go somebody somewhere else. Go find somebody that isn't upset every time you sneeze, every time you eat something, every time you do something, you say something. I mean, you're adult. You're not a kid that has a girlfriend or boyfriend. And I'm like, "Oh, it's like a it become like a child parent relationship." Like a child that breaks something or spills the milk and the mother sees it. She says, "Hey, you spilled the milk." No, I didn't. It It fell. It It, you know, the kids talk like that. Obviously, mother knows the kid did it. The kid is scared. Mama Mama is going to get angry. But you are not a kid. You're an adult. Mama, there is no mama. It's your girlfriend. It's your partner. It's your wife or husband. You drop something. You say, "I dropped it. I broke it." The end. That's simple. Okay. The other person gets angry. Why did you break it? Why this? Why that? Fine. I mean, what's what's the need for the lie? The trust is more important than a lot of other things in a relationship than And the white lies that is oh it's just the white light or the really raw lies like this. I mean she literally sees the thing on the table and says and he goes like no there is no there is no nothing on the table. What the hell is this thing? What what kind of behavior is this? Are you a child or are you or is it worse than this? Maybe he's really a bad person. I don't want to judge him. I'm trying to be understanding. I'm thinking, okay, he's scared of her. He's panicking. Oh my god, another fight coming. Still low. I I think it's better take the fight. And if you he had admitted it from the start that I I use these pills or I use eye drops and I like to use eye drops then there would be no need for such situations that okay I have to hide it. If she doesn't like it we take a fight or argument or discussion and then then that's it. If you don't agree with this and the other person really doesn't like it then then you change the person. You don't change you. so you don't go become a liar. So, be honest. Be honest. And by the way, this is a new microphone. I hope it's good. I don't know. Still, I'm adjusting it, testing it. The last episode I used it, but it turned out really not pleasant to listen to, and this one I think I talked again too loudly. I have to talk a little bit calmly. I I mean it's not nice to scream in your into your ear. I understand that I'm walking and I have to learn to talk calmly. But also the subject is kind of like excites me as in in a negative way. I mean like dude stop lying. Just stop lying. Stop it. Stop. Stop. Just stop it. And I I get excited when my voice goes up and it's difficult. I'm sorry. I'm still learning. I'm not a professional podcaster or radio talk show host or anything like that. And so this is it for this episode. Don't lie, be honest. Thank you and goodbye.