ExitByDeath ❤️‍🔥

If you're going to help somebody, just help them. Don't offer help and then make them run after you. That's awful. I have this friend of mine. He has to help me with something and I keep asking him, "So, when can I come to you to get some help?" He says, "Oh, call me tonight." The thing is, he offered to help me from the first place. So, I called tonight. He says, "Oh, no, I can't. Try try next day, next week, next next." It's very tiring. If you you're going to help somebody, just help them. If you're not going to help me, just tell me, "Hey, I can't help you or I don't want to help you." That's fine. I mean, I I'm not offended. I'm not forcing myself into your whatever you you have you're doing, whatever you have going on. But if we are friends and you offer me help, then help me. Why? What's with the fake offer? I I don't understand this. Be honest with people. just making me run after him. It's much worse than I worse because I I can't even plan my my next action. I'm like, "Okay, he's he's going to help me." But then he won't and I actually need the help. So, I I don't know what to do now. Should I plan with somebody else? Should I seek help at some place else? Or should I wait for this guy? It's It's very annoying to to say the least. It's annoying and it's very awful because you messed somebody else's life. Don't help me if you don't want to help me. Just tell me honestly, I'm sorry, I don't want to help you or I can't help you. I would like to help you, but I can't. And that's fine. Then I will say, okay, that's fine. But when you say I will help you, and then you won't help, that's much worse. That's it's hard to see you as a friend that way. like why did you offer me to this kind of I will help you but you never help me you like me to run after you for help I don't understand I don't even need to run after him but because he's a friend and I'm I'm trying to be nice here I mean I could just go to some someone else to get whatever it is I need help with but he said okay I will help you and I'm say okay fine I'll I'll come to you but now several months I've been running after a So when is this help going to come? He's like, "Oh, next week, next week, next week. Next week." I start to really pissing me off. Now I think this kind of BS uh offer of help or promises, it's very destructive to a friendship because friendship is about being honest. And offering fake help that never comes. That's not honesty. Honesty in a friendship is when you tell the friend, hey, I don't want to help you. I don't like this or I want to help you but I can't. Things like that. Just tell it as it is. That's what friendship is about. Friendship isn't about pretending to be friend or pretending to want to help and then you never actually do anything. It's like giving somebody hope and then it's false hope. False hope is awful. It's very It's almost evil. Like what? Don't give me false hope. Also I I I I would like to be able to plan my life. And if I ask someone for help then it means okay I will expect that help. So I plan my life in a certain way. But if the someone says no I'm sorry I can't help you. That's fine and I will plan my life in the other way that okay I'm going to search for help at some place else someone else. That's the issue. Now I'm up in there for several weeks and months just running after this guy. So what am I supposed to do? Just it's just very strange. Friendship is about honesty and offering help is also about honesty. Either help somebody or just don't help. This fake help is just disgusting. It's just very very very bad. Of course, some people want your friendship because you help them or because they think you will help them. That's not okay either. Fake friends are not worth anything. Imagine because uh if you're going to fall and there is a shadow of a pillar, a shadow of a wall and you think, "Oh, there is a wall there. If I'm about to fall, I can lean on it." But it's actually a shadow. It's not real. And you lean on it. Boom, you fall. But that's not okay. This is like a false security. This kind of false friendship is kind of like that. Just awful. In my opinion, we should always test our friends like really test them. Is this a real friend or is this just an acquaintance or like what kind of friend is this? Don't go around thinking, oh, I have a friend or I have even even family members, a brother, a sister that they will be there when I need help. Don't assume that they won't be there. Not always. You got to test them. You got to and how you how you test them in my opinion, the way I test people is I show them that I'm completely helpless. I I can't help them at all. Anything I need help and I can't help them back. I can't give them money, nothing. So they must actually give me help that they actually want to not not that okay I will help him and then I'll get something back. And that's the only way you can be sure that this is a real friend because a real friend will help you when they are absolutely sure that you cannot give anything back to them. And that's that's a real help and that's a real friend. and somebody who helped you in this situation in a position where you're completely helpless and you can't give anything back to them not now or not in the future and that is a real friend. Keep that friend. Thank you and goodbye.